What you’ll find in this personal letter

• • My observations from the past few weeks, and yes, fear is one of them
  • Some words of wisdom from scientists who study body language and how we can interpret it
  • Below you’ll find a free guide to help you discover more about yourself, your fear, through the lens of your body

Over the last few months, I’ve been slowly transitioning from my familiar work as a therapeutic coach
toward a creative field where I write, share, feel, observe, and show myself more openly.
It’s a shift from guiding people one-on-one to offering my inner world to anyone who resonates with it.
It feels honest, true… and equally vulnerable.

Because choosing to make writing and creative self my priority, changes my environment.
I’m stepping away from what is known and entering a field of creation where nothing is fixed or known, except my intuition.

And that’s exactly where fear shows up.

I feel fear around money.
Around my contribution to our household.
Around the practical side of life that continues no matter how spiritually or emotionally I grow.
I can trust what I want, but trust doesn’t pay bills. I can meditate hours, but attracting money isn’t gonna work in a passive way.

There’s also fear around my children.
I want to support them in every possible way. To help them “succeed,” feel seen, and experience as little pain
as possible in a school system that values performance far more than personal development.

And deeply underneath, there is fear about myself.
Fear of letting go of an identity that felt safe, and walking into a world where I allow myself to be fully visible.
Visible with my feelings, my intuition, my doubts, my wisdom, and my transformation.

My fear creates contraction.
I hold back, I grip, I minimize.
I notice I cling to money more tightly, and big expenses make me tense.
It doesn’t feel like me and it’s not who I want to be.

Yet, I know this step is right.
My intuition is clear, and my body confirms that this is the path that wants to be lived.

But holding trust while entering a new world…
That is sometimes challenging.

The quote that changed my perspective

On a beautiful mondaymorning, the day after my daughter turned 15 years old,
a sentence entered my mind so strongly it felt like it was spoken directly to me:

Fear is a way of accepting you are not in charge.

And it hit me deeply.

Because I felt, immediately:
it’s not the world that creates fear,
it’s the moment I stop taking responsibility.
The moment I rely on circumstances instead of myself.
The moment I hand over my inner leadership.

The truth is:
I am responsible for my choices, my direction, and my outcomes.
No one else.

Which means I have something to do and not fight the fear,
but take charge again.

The body & fear: knowledge & wisdom

When we experience fear, we often think it means something is wrong with us.
But fear is fundamentally biological, psychological, and energetic.

There is a lot of science around the topic of fear. I personally feel very drawn to these authors,
because they explain why your body responds the way it does, without focusing on fixing or medicating
the body so it simply “functions well” again.

(The names are linked, so if you’re curious, just click on them and you’ll find much more about these brilliant minds.)

1. The body

Gabor Maté, a renowned Canadian physician and author who is a leading expert on trauma and its lifelong effects,
particularly on addiction, stress, and childhood development, describes fear as the result of losing connection with ourselves
when we stop listening to what we truly need.
The body then searches for safety, and it usually finds it in control.
(I recognize this in detail, just like cleaning the house or checking my son’s homework assignments ☺️)

Joe Dispenza explains that fear is often a repetition of past thoughts,
a chemical pattern the body recognizes:
“This feels unfamiliar. Unfamiliar is unsafe. Hold on.”
Your body has become more trained in the past than in the future you desire.

He says transformation starts with awareness:

• Notice the thought.
• Pause before it pulls you into emotion.
• Become the witness instead of the reactor.

This moment of awareness is “the space where change begins.”
(That’s nice to know, now I am sharing about my fears, I create the space where change begins 😊)

2. The energetic layer

Fear contracts.
It pulls inward.
It closes.
It grips.

Creation expands.
It opens.
It moves.
It trusts.

In transformation, we experience both:
the contraction of the old, and the expansion of the new.

And that’s exactly where my process lives, and I can imagine that you yourself also recognize some things.

My lessons: how I take charge again

I asked myself three questions that immediately brought clarity.
You can use them too.

1. Why did I make this choice?

Because my body knew long before my mind:
I’m here to write, to share, to connect, to feel, to grow.
Not because it’s easy, but because it’s aligned.

2. Can I internally decide that this is my path?

Not halfway.
Not hesitating.
But fully supporting myself:
This is my way with every lesson that comes with it.
That decision alone calms my nervous system.

3. Am I willing to grow in a world I don’t yet know?

New worlds require new identities.
It often feels like losing something at first, but I also feel and believe my new identity is an identity
I recognize because it’s one I’ve always been deep inside.

My reminder

Seeing the larger picture is what carries me through the moments of doubt.

My future is stronger than my fear.
My creative field is greater than my contraction.
My body is learning to trust, one day at a time.

And maybe yours is too.

And reading Joe Dispenza his work helpt me remember something important:
You must feel a new future, not just think about it

This is one of his biggest teachings:

“The body doesn’t know the difference between a real emotion and an imagined one.”

If you repeatedly feel elevated emotions like
gratitude, trust, expansion, possibility, love,
the body starts believing that the future you imagine is already happening.

And the brain begins wiring new connections to match that future.

This is what he calls creating from the field, instead of from the known past.

Do you personally want to get more insights?
Download your free guide and explore yourself a bit deeper.